Support and Growth

Growing up, I was always a most fiercely independent child. I wanted to do everything for myself and I pretty much always did. When I was 16, I had my own full running business and I would go to school and come home, do homework and fall into my role as business woman, creating till the wee hours of the night. Admirable you say? Yes sure, it’s taught me a lot of valuable lessons about people, money, manufacturing, growing business capital etc. However, it was only later in life, that I realised that something must have happened for me to be so unusually independent from my parents, in a time that normal children were planning their sweet 16 Birthday parties!

Turns out, my mother was always working (in the beginning night shift – she was a nurse) and she would sleep during the day. My Grandmother (whom I adored till the day she died), practically raised me. For me as a child (baby) of that age, I felt abandoned by my mother. That is what made me stand on my own two feet at a very young age. Subconsciously, I must have picked up the message: “you are going to have to look after yourself if you want to survive”. You can just imagine how this played out in many GOOD, but also, not so good ways in my life! But that same thing kept my ambition high and I kept working hard to change my financial heritage to my children around. Today, I am looking after my parents financially in full.

On the downside: I’ve also watched people around me, fail to stand in their financial power for many years, blaming their parents for the fact that they were not financially successful in life. Because they didn’t inherit property, beach houses, start up capital etc like most of their other friends. Playing out the victim narrative, kept them from achieving financial independence in their lives. Always feeling short changed and subconsciously blaming their parents for theif financial woes.

The other day, I had a friend of mine, call me to say her 6 year old son just bought his own bike with money he made from doing castings. She sent me a video of him, walking into a local sports warehouse and everyone (including the staff) were in tears when he walked around the corner, an was presented with a brand new bike! He started crying and everyone opened the flood gates! When you see a little boy have his biggest dream come true – there is something in us that just turns to mush! I told his mum that I hope she knows that she is such a good mum for helping him from a small age to taste that empowerment! She didn’t go and just buy him the bike of his dreams – she allowed him the space to put in effort (grow and put himself out there) and taste the fruits of his labour! Now he is by no means extorted or used in any way. He is safe and protected by his mother who helps him find casting opportunities. They show up, he does what they ask under her watchful eye and he gets paid. She then saves up the money FOR HIM and put it towards something that he really really wants. I immediately texted her and said to her – I hope you know you are one of the best mums I know! Because even my own kids really enjoy just submitting their wishlists!! I promise you that little boy will look after that bike so well – because he knows how much energy he had to put in, to earn it!

I always tell parents – you can’t really mess up your child’s life!!  Why? Because first of all, they chose US when we were spirit, deciding to come down to earth on this mission. We did not pick them. They picked us, knowing everything about us! So you are 100% WORTHY to be your child’s parent! You already pre-qualified!

Secondly, even IF you hand them a hard life, if they so choose, they can learn from that and use that experience to turn their pain into something good. That is the power of alchemy that lies dormant inside each of us!

I saw this quote the other day:

It’s the help I didn’t get that helped me the most.

Anon

And that is so true. My parents didn’t help me in many ways that I felt they should have (in retrospect as a parent myself now I can say that). However, in not helping me, they helped me, because I was wise enough to pick up that I had to do it for myself. And honestly, if I waited for them to make my dreams come true, I would today have been a very bitter, negative person. Because of some of the forms of neglect that I experienced from them, I was able to overcome, get up and do it for myself.

Like everything in life (like the Jin/Jang symbol) there is always something good inside something bad, and there is always some thing bad in something good. That is how life keeps balance. It’s up to us to find that opposite inside each situation. As a Guide in The Modern Mystery School, I can tell you it’s also true. Sometimes NOT helping my initiates, is helping them! :However, sometimes people get angry, because their mother didn’t help them and they have started to equate you to the person that was going to take the role of their mother. But you are not, you are a SPIRITUAL GUIDE, there to help them with spiritual growth and empowerment. If your heart is open and you are working with your higher self, you will start project less, and find the wisdom and lesson in every situation.

Love and Moonlight,

Leonie