That Special Glue

By far the best source for my “pause, catch and digest that moments” is my 9 year old son. I had a discussion with a longtime client of mine today. He happened to have spent some time with my son while on holiday last year. He told me that in a 45 minute conversation with him (as an 8 year old back then), he’s had more depth and understanding in the conversation, than what he has seen or experienced in most adults he’s met in his life. Being quite the academic and coming from high circles in the education sector – this is not a small statement. This made me think of something my son said the other day that confirms he is way beyond his age (and that I’m in over my head!)

To bring context to the conversation  – he was busy assembling a toy made from many bits and pieces. One of the pieces had a flimsy corner and it broke off. He came to me and asked: “Mum, you have that special glue that fixes everything. Can you please help me to fix this piece?”. I didn’t think much of it at first, but when I thought about it, what he said is really true about mums in general!

Mums do have that special glue that keeps things together!  Mums do have the glue that fixes pretty much anything. Mums make stuff stick. Mums make stuff work. That glue makes the family a family.  And honestly, it can even be a father who is playing the role of the nurturer or main caregiver. It can be the grandmother or an aunt. But someone taking on that role of nurturer is the glue.

This is why it is so heart breaking when I work with clients who grew up without that glue that gave structure and stability to their world as a child. It can have all sorts of devastating effects. The child inevitably grows up as an adult who does not feel supported, quite often overwhelmed by the enormity of challenges in the world. That child can grow up and see only challenges and struggle to find solutions to both simple and complex problems in their life. As an adult, this person can struggle to create their own stability in relationships.

If you were dealt the unfortunately hand of growing up with that support structure, I invite you to make sure that you heal the effect of that trauma. Yes, you are not to blame, it is not your fault that it happened. But it did, and now it’s your responsibility to heal it’s effects on your soul structure.

If you are a mother, be the glue! Give yourself the credit for being the glue! You are SO SO important to your youngster’s life! If you find it difficult to be that glue – seek healing for you! So that you can help future generations to have a different spiritual and emotional inheritance than you have! Prioritising you is SO important!

Love and Moonlight,

Leonie